From the time we are born, it is imbibed in us that it should somewhat be our life’s aim to be with somebody. A partner who you can share everything with. We get so caught up with the idea that we begin to follow the herd and believe that our life is only full if we have a “significant other” to spend it with. But what happens when the other person becomes not-so-significant? Or breaks your heart? Why can’t we be significant enough for ourselves?
Being single again can be challenging. It can be daunting to go to social gatherings you once went as a couple to, alone. You are out of your comfort zone and everything is new and weird. But it can also be loads of fun and open up doors to some excellent new opportunities.
So it is time to get over that not-so-significant other and fall in love with your own company!
Learn more about yourself
You might have spent a huge chunk of your life with the other person and when that happens, both your world merge. Your start compromising what you actually like for their happiness so much so that it becomes a state of living. Now that they are gone, learn more about yourself. Take up a new hobby that once interested you and become a little more selfish.
Use the new freedom to your advantage
When in a relationship, you would constantly need to consult your partner about several things like food, travel, etc. Now that there is nobody to consult before making decisions, be spontaneous! Take that solo trip you’ve been wanting to. Instead of Chinese takeout cook up a delicious three course meal. Go for that play you have been dying to watch. Do everything you ever wanted to but couldn’t!
Spend more time with friends and family
When one is in a serious relationship, other people take the backseat. Your friends stopped complaining that you don’t spend enough time with them because there was no point. Your parents are now used to you being locked in your room all day or even just on the phone all day. These people were there for you before your relationship and will be by your side even after. Spend more time with them and show them that they still matter.
Do things alone
When you are with somebody, making plans is always easy because you have company. Whether it is sitting at a coffee shop, going for a movie or just gaming at the arcade, you don’t need somebody else to be with you while doing all of this. The first few minutes will seem uncomfortable at first, but you will soon start enjoying your own company and listening to your own thoughts.
Give back to society
Love animals? Volunteer at a shelter. Love kids? Volunteer at an orphanage. Old people need helpers at old age homes too. Get out there – do something new and give back to the world at the same time. You will get the opportunity to hear new stories, meet new people and probably see the world through somebody else’s eyes for a change!
Create a new routine
Now that you have more time on your hands, create a new routine. We as humans derive comfort from consistency and routine. Instead of cliking through your phone doing nothing in all of that spare time, find as many opportunities as possible to make things easier in your everyday life. Make coffee for yourself first thing every morning. Read the news while eating breakfast. Listen to a podcast while going to work. Pick up vegetables on the way back. Cook up your favourite dish and feat on it while watching your favourite sitcom. Do things one step at a time and they will not seem as daunting.
Follow these rules and and fall in love with yourself all over again. It may seem daunting at first, but you will love your own company more than anything or anybody else in no time, we promise!